About · Relationship coach & poet
The anonymity was the thesis. Authorship is the answer.
One person, one move, three forms — coaching, a game, and the poems. Each is a way to make contact with something true and hard to say, and stay there.
How I got here
Before it was a practice, it was a problem I was living inside.
The first thing I built was called Comfort Free Conversations. The premise was a little countercultural: the things we flinch from are usually the things worth staying with, and discomfort, handled with care, is a tool rather than a threat. I still believe that. It runs underneath everything here.
But somewhere in those years I caught myself doing all of it from the neck up. I could name any feeling from a safe distance and mistake the naming for the thing itself. I had turned knowing into a place to hide — a quiet, well-defended way of never quite arriving in the room.
So I went back down into the body, and into years of study most coaching never touches: phenomenology, embodiment, the psychology of how a person actually makes meaning. The slow work was letting what I understood reach what I felt. What came out the other side is the practice you are reading now — philosophical enough to hold your complexity, embodied enough to notice the moment you leave the room while still sitting in it.
A closed loop cannot revise its own premise. Mine did.
Felt first. Then proven.
Start where the pressure is.
Work with me →Or begin at the table — the game asks gentler versions of the same questions.